(The blog wont let me post pictures right now so Im using
FB)
One month home and life is starting to feels a bit more 'normal' and yet at times I
catch myself staring at the girls amazed that they really are here!
It went from week 1- "wow, they are angels...this is so
much fun, why didn't we bring more home!"
To week 2- "soooo....it's true- they are humans and are
not perfect and they can say 'No' when we ask them to put on a seat belt...what
in the world do we do now?!
To week 3: routines
and structure is a very good thing
A typical day:
We all seem to wake up at the same time...PBS kids goes on
and I get breakfast on the table.
During breakfast I
read ALOT to the kids...I was so nervous that I would be boring the twins to
death and I secretly had nightmares that they would walk off dissing my history
books but it's amazing how attentive and good they are during this long reading
time. I set myself up by explaining to
them that this is 'school' 'mommy reads'...they looked around at their pajama
clad family members and probably had a strange 1st impression of the American
school system ;)
After breakfast the younger 3 start school. Jacob is pretty self sufficient and I usually
only need to help him in 2 subjects. I
then bounce between Caleb and Sova- reheating my coffee and 'spying' on the
twins playing together. The kids will
often run out of the room to visit the twins 'for a break.'
The twins are free to play in the morning and Im sure they
appreciate that quiet time they have together.
They now feel comfortable enough to wander around and take anything out
that they wish.
Some things they do
in the morning:
playdough, clay,
games, drawing, playing out on the trampoline, trying to figure out the
bicycle, coloring, they love artsy crafty stuff- scissors, glue, paints ect. , trying
to figure out the Leapster. game, puzzles, I leave out various 'educational
toys', they LOVE dressing the dolls up, doing their hair, and setting them up-
hours a day!
My goal everyday is to have the younger 3 done with school
by lunchtime.
I read again during lunch and try to do something fun
together like a game, science or art project.
Then it's on to the 2nd shift...the kids rotate.
Younger 3 are free to play while I do school with the twins.
They practice writing
their letters, we do simple spelling words like: dad, rug, fin,
we do phonics- and they are now reading stuff like,
"Mat sat on the cat," AND comprehending what they read. They are doing addition and subtraction- one
can multiply a bit but whats confuisng is that they were taught different ways
of doing math- and this is where Im drawing the biggest ? with them. Im trying to tell myself to just focus
on language learning and forget about the math this year but
the teacher inside me can't handle that.
They are picking up English words faster than I even
expected but they are storing them in their brains for now- you wont hear them
using them yet but during school with flashcards I see that they know soooo
many words...they are just intimidated to use them.
Some phrases we hear daily:
"Come on Sova..outside",
"Mommy...what is
this? (1st asked while I was driving past a cemetery- I did the whole charades
one handed and all... and they actually understood! Really felt like I should
have won an academy award with that one!)
"Where Jacob?"
"Wow!, sure, stinky!, excuse me, bless you, thank you, sorry,
please, yes, no, UNO!, noooooo daddy!, Caleb baby, (they picked up on me
calling him 'my baby' and they will call him this and he actually likes it :)
I know it sounds crazy but we have no problems
communicating...I cant think of one scenario where we just couldn't explain
something.
It's funny with the kids though. I have had to remind them that they don't
need to talk louder when they aren't getting through.
Jacob: "Im going
to piano lessons now"
non English speaker: 'huh?"
Jacob: 20 decibels
higher, "Im going to piano now!!"
Michael gets pretty much attacked when he gets home from
work. They think he's the greatest thing
and cant get enough daddy time. They've
never had a father nor a male figure in their life- what a crucial role he is
able step into- and they are embracing every second of it!
Bed time seems like eternity. Not sure how we 'start the process' at 7:30
and we are still going in and out of bedrooms at 9:30... We of course feel the
need to spend time with the twins trying to bond and make special connections,
and yet then we see the need to give the younger 3 'extra' time too so that
they wont feel left out or jealous with our attention on the twins...so we find
ourselves pretty much laying w/ everyone and giving 101 hugs and kisses... thus
me typing this near mid night.
As far as the household stuff:
I have not learned how to purchase enough for 1 week
yet! Every week so far I have had to run
out for the things we go through like crazy
And YET...Im very proud of myself...the twins have not yet been in a grocery
store...nor any store for that matter! :) At
times when I have been left alone with them it has taken everything in me not
to run to Target to let them pick out their own earrings or new shoes. I keep telling myself...all in good time.
Because the twins are little army cleaners I stepped it up
with my younger 3. It' s amazing how
kids actually like to work and clean...I just always preferred to do it
myself....frankly because I do it better :)
But day one when I
saw 7 plates left on the dinner table that all changed. all the kids make their beds, unload the
dishwasher, clear the table, sweep, take out the garbage, and I recently added
cleaning the bathroom counters/sinks and vacuuming. So much of this is just plain fascinating to
the twins. One day they asked me what
the dishwasher does- I showed them how to clean the dishes and load the
dishwasher- when I saw them fighting over the sponge I then decided to introduce
one of them to the vacuum cleaner...when Jacob saw her vacuuming- he wanted to
do it.
Back to the sink
girl...water from the faucet is still miraculous and she wont turn the sink
off- there are no dishes left so she is literally washing the sink (that I
think normal people do but I have yet to see the point up until this
time....ahhhh the shine!)
I realized that this cleaning novelty will one day wear off
so I am now in the process of engraving the chore charts in steel.
The girls were able to explain to me that they scrubbed their clothes by hand with water from the rain. They had to walk very far to the well to get drinking water- but they explained 'a boy' did this for them. They told me that they had no food in their house. Whenever we look at their pictures from Ethiopia more and more bits of info come to surface...I cant wait for them to share so much with us!
The girls were able to explain to me that they scrubbed their clothes by hand with water from the rain. They had to walk very far to the well to get drinking water- but they explained 'a boy' did this for them. They told me that they had no food in their house. Whenever we look at their pictures from Ethiopia more and more bits of info come to surface...I cant wait for them to share so much with us!
Everyday is an adventure around here. I don't think that we have laughed this much
in our lives. Everything seems to be
funny and the girls have the best sense of humor.
Even though this transition to a new country and a new
family is in essence considered 'trauma'- God has been with them every step of
the way. He allowed their hearts to open
up to us and we were blessed to be able to go through the grieving process
together. They allowed us to hold them
and cry with them. It was pure healing
and I cant even tell you how much they needed to do that. There was a new bond between us after that
night- an unspoken understanding that we all have... We not only acknowledged
and accepted their grief - we took part in it and in return they opened up
their hearts even more to us. They are amazing little girls...we are so blessed.
The part the truly amazes me is the kids...they all play
like they have lived together their whole lives...I just cant get over it. Yes- they even all fight which means we've all
settled in togehter ;)
Even my little shy
man- my mouth drops as I see him run up to the girls hugging and squeezing them and saying that he loves them! He crawls up on their lap during a movie...oh
the Lord has heard my prayers!
So I don't consider myself stylish but do have a small sense...and
I daily try to get to the girls closet before they do because you never know
what will appear on them. Red plaid
skirt- pink tights- striped blue hoody....with all the hair bows accessible
strung across the head.
Today was a beautiful sweater with addidas sport pants...I
even over heard Mike say, "are you going out like that?" They had no clue what he said but I was
cracking up.
Because they are not 4 years old...I just feel kind of bad when
I mention a possible clothing change...most of the time we just go with it!
I've also had to hide the scissors in the bathroom because I
realized that when they saw stray hairs sticking out of their hair-do...they
would take the scissors and chop! I
discovered this while pulling one's hair into a pony tail and realizing that it
doesnt reach nearly as far as it used to...aye!
Like I mentioned- they love their Ethiopian spice called
'berber'...it has gotten a little crazy.
They have berber PB and J and Berber covered bananas.
Every weekend so far we have had a 'family campout' in the
living room...and the kids have had mid-week 'sleepover's' in the girl's room
after Jacob pitched a fit that it's not fair Sova gets to 'hang out' w/
them...the girls then started chanting, 'Jacob-Caleb-Jacob-Caleb' until we
caved and allowed the boys to bring in their sleeping bags!
Jerusalem is obsessed w/ the leaf-blower...for the last
couple weeks she has walked around our yard for hours! Mike taught her how to use and and I will
sometimes see her blowing leaves while Im doing school w/ the kids!
The ophange had a TV with some donated americanVHS movies that they would
put on for the kids. While Jacob was searching
through netflix, Helen started flipping out- she ran up to the TV and pointed
at Barney and said 'this this!'
"This in Ethiopia!' She
wanted it on and the younger three litteraly ran out of the room. Caleb was almost in tears about it! I put on Barney for her while the younger
ones sulked outside.
While cleaning up listening to the background music of,
"I love you, you love me..," I
was bursting inside at the thought of Mike and I being concerned about bringing
home 'older children' and what kind of influence that might have on the kids. So far Caleb is crying that Barney is on and
Sova is upset that they sleep with her favorite dolls...I'd say we are OK in
this department :)
The younger 3 are in a Christmas play and every night the Christmas
music has to go on so the kids can learn the songs. The twins found a mini Christmas tree in our
garage and brought it to their bedroom- they then stuck battery operated
tea-lights in it. They laugh and say,
Christmas! With the amount of times they
have heard this Christmas music on- I'm thinking that they think it's
Christmas...
So one month in and Im truly amazed at how smoothly we all
transitioned.
When we go out somewhere- (church, someone's house, group
atmosphere) the girls go back to stoic,
quiet, looking unhappy mode. That's not
the real them and it will just take a little time to figure this all out. They are the funniest livliest girls who love
laughing and playing.
I know many of you were praying for this transition and we
cant thank you enough.
God not only call's us- he equips us and prepares us and
never leaves nor forsakes us...that we know to be true.